SIGNS YOU ARE SELF-CONNECTED
YOU KNOW and listen to YOUR BODY’S CUES
You’re hyper aware of your physical reactions to the world around you - when making decisions, you notice your body’s cue for excitement and you can understand it when it protests (whether by tensing up or offering discomfort in your gut). You notice these reactions and allow them to play into your ultimate decisions. Same goes for the people you surround yourself with: you can tell whose energy nourishes you and who sucks you dry simply by listening to your body.
You give yourself permission to feel whatever you’re feeling
You understand that your experiences are valid, no matter what they are. You allow yourself to ‘hold space’ for the whole rainbow of emotions that are capable of arising in your body. You understand that where you are now is important, even if it’s temporary.
YOU ARE A MASTER AT PAUSING YOUR REACTIVITY
When things get heated, or you feel triggered, you are able to take a step back and press pause on your feelings to fully process them before engaging with others. When you do feel ready to engage, you know how to communicate your feelings and needs directly and with a sense of security.
YOU TRUST THAT YOU ARE CAPABLE OF MEETING ALL YOUR NEEDS
You have agency. You understand that the world is full of variables you can’t control, and you are confident that no matter what happens, you are going to be able to find solutions that meet your needs. You don’t lean on other people to ‘make you happy’ or fulfill your needs for you. You’ve got your own back.
YOU FEEL SAFE IN YOUR BODY
Regardless of what life throws at you, you recognize that you are safe. You know how to self-soothe and you seek appropriate support when it’s necessary. You aren’t afraid to ask for help, but you’re also confident in your own resilience. Because deep down, you know you are safe. And when you do feel threatened, you have the tools you need to bring yourself back to that safe space.
You Make Time For Self-Care
You understand that you have to take care of yourself in order to be fully present and supportive of other people. When your needs are met, you are better able to meet the needs of others. So you set aside time for yourself, even if it’s not every day (could be once per week!) to get quiet, connect, or to play. You make time for the activities that bring you joy. You celebrate this sacred time with self.
How do you feel?
If you checked most of these boxes, HUGE PROPS. You’ve clearly done the work to ensure that your self-reflection skills are grounded and your confidence reflects that. No doubt you are capable of moving through life’s ups and downs feeling supported and resilient. You’re bound to be an incredibly calming energy for other people to be around and it’s likely that your relationships are strong. Life is good—count your gratitudes and soak it all in!
If you didn’t check every box and would like to increase your self-connection, you are in good company. Most people are unintentionally disconnected to self—and with all the distractions in the world, it’s no wonder!
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